My pregnancy was a big shock, I had just had the implant out and had a week break before I went on the pill and conceived in that week. My boyfriend lived in London as a Coldstream guard in the army and I lived in a tiny flat in Penzance, Cornwall. When I told him he was just about to go on guard so had to stand still outside Buckingham palace for two hours and think about it and I had to wait all that time to speak to him properly about it. We were both so shocked but knew we were going to go ahead with it.
I had a really smooth easy pregnancy, I loved every minute of it. As I live in Cornwall and it was a lovely hot summer I spent most of it in a bikini on the beach. We found out at 16 weeks we were having a girl and I was so so happy. I had a lot of growth scans as my bump always measured small but everything was always fine.
At 30 weeks they told me she was breech but would probably turn.
I never really felt her do a big turn the whole time I was pregnant.
I could feel her wriggling all the time but never any big turns, I don’t know if it was because I had a small bump and not much fluid so she was tightly packed in there. Anyway she never moved and a C-section was booked at 36 weeks, I didn’t want them to try and turn her for a number of reasons.
Leading up to the C-section I was fine as my sister had one so I knew what to expect. On the morning of the section they did one last scan to make sure she was still breech and she was, we waited all day and finally it was my turn, I had the canula put in and went upstairs to be gowned up and Robbie was put in scrubs and clogs I couldn’t stop laughing at them.
They sat me on the edge of the bed and put the epidural in which wasn’t half as bad as I thought it would be, then lay me down. The worst bit of it all which still makes me feel queasy was them telling me they were moving my legs to put the catheter in and I could see my legs up and apart but it felt like they were still out straight. So I’d tell them not to tell you when they’re moving your legs as you won’t feel it and it’ll make you feel weird then they started, I asked could Robbie film it and they said yes and would let him know when he could start. He got up and started filming and you can hear me laughing in the background asking can he see her yet but little did I know her little head was a bit stuck so they were tugging her in all directions before she came out, poor Robbie almost fainted.
She was out in minutes and put on my chest and it was the best moment of my whole life. I was then stitched up and taken in the other room where someone (I can’t remember nurse or midwife) helped her latch on and she started feeding straight away.
I was then taken down to the ward and stayed there for two days. I kept forgetting to ask for painkillers so I was in a lot of pain but as soon as I got on top of it the pain was bearable.
I couldn’t thank the doctors and nurses enough they were all amazing and took good care of us
Advice I would give to others
I’m not really sure where to start but some advice I would give would be to go to any baby groups even if you feel nervous or don’t feel like they’ll be your thing. I never thought I’d be the baby group kind of mum, but I found it so helpful speaking to mums with babies around the same age, the ones with babies a little older would reassure me that most things are just a phase and can give tips and tricks. You can get soooo bored on mat leave so it’s nice to make friends who are in the same boat. I got a booklet from my HV with a list of them all. My partner is a Coldstream guard and lives in London so it’s nice to have things to do while he’s away.
If you need a C-section like me then set alarms for your painkillers so it takes the edge off, I kept forgetting and would get a sharp reminder.
If you want to breastfeed buy nipple cream and nipple shields just in case, I’d have had to stop if I didn’t have the shields as my nipples got so sore.
If you can’t sleep when the baby sleeps then don’t feel bad, I couldn’t switch off so I’d get all my jobs done then when she woke up wed snuggle up on the sofa and I could relax as everything was clean and tidy.
It sounds stupid and some people won’t care if they don’t wear makeup but it’s so easy to forget about yourself when you have a baby so I made sure everyday I put a little bit of makeup on, it took me 5 mins and you do just feel a bit more like you again as babies do make you look knackered to begin with
Lastly would probably be don’t be afraid to ask for help, everyone loves babies so most people are happy to. I didn’t ask anyone for any help for months and I regret it, I really struggled at times but felt like I had to show I could do it all on my own.
Not sure if any of that is good advice but it’s stuff I’d have found useful when I was pregnant xx